How often are you tempted to take that shiny offer or maybe continue in a job or relationship that looks on the surface really good but feels really bad? We all have been there I am sure and some of you are even there right now. We can go around and around in circles looking at the pros and cons and making up reasons why we are where we are or why we should do what we are about to do. For to entertain the alternative is just too plain scary, so scary it feels like we might even die. And when faced with this choice the shiny offer or unsatisfactory relationship or job looks good – really good, doesn’t it.
We settle for the comfort of ‘just leave things untampered with’ scenario – we just want this horrible feeling to end. And “Ahhh”…… instant relief – not necessarily because it was the best decision but because it was a decision and the conflict is no longer there. However the prize has been rejected and we have been left with the fake golden egg and our beautiful 24 carat egg that is our birth right is respectfully but not silently (we can still get in touch with it anytime if we have the tools) sitting just below the surface waiting for the next opportunity to show the way. And it will come up again; it never actually goes away because it cannot be separated from us.
So next time you find yourself in conflict, notice the physical and emotional feelings that are trying to guide you towards your true path. Know that you cannot keep these feelings down for long. They are built into each and every one of us, they are part of us; they are us. Know that for real! This is your truth.
Not long now and once again that conflicted, stuck and unhappy feeling that has been pushed below personal consciousness will rise gently to the surface to let you know that you are going in opposition to your true self. If you can catch it there and then – guess what no more conflict. The calling speaks to you and it asks gently over and over – Can you FEEL me?
In my coaching practice I see the effects of this resistance over and over until my clients truly step into themselves and trust that the guidance I have shown them is their own and can be fully trusted and followed. We are not taught in our society to follow our truth, our inner knowing and we naively follow the paths that we believe society has forged for us or expects from us. This is done very innocently until we see and feel the cost or come to realise there is a better way, a truer way for us to conduct ourselves, live our lives and find the true happiness that is already within us.
Sometimes you may realise that something needs to change but what – ‘what is it I just don’t know’ or ‘I can’t figure it out’ many of my clients say. And the reality is that they always do know but this reality seems so confronting it is difficult to come to terms with. We will do virtually anything to prevent the ‘change’ and the ‘being real’ and true to ourselves because it scares the crap out of us. As Marianne Williamson wrote and Nelson Mandela spoke
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us…..”
My passion is to turn people towards the peace and happiness that is within. Through the process of loving who you are, a portal is opened for the light within you to come into and shine on this world. I see this light in every one of my clients as they sit with me and the only way for them to know it is there is to be ready and willing to look at themselves closely and honestly. And those that do this; they very quickly see the change and begin to see their truth. It is that simple but for many it can be terrifying and they choose to return to the way things are and hope for the best. Others however see a glimmer of what could be and can no longer ignore those murmurs they feel coming from their heart. And I mean this both figuratively and literally. Our hearts do connect us to our joy and they give us life – we feel this longing through our hearts and the heart sends our bodies a soft and gentle guidance towards our joy. Listen now! ……………..So, What did your heart tell you? Love for you to share, I wait in anticipation……
And one final and most important thought so perfectly put by an unknown author…
You can’t be all things to all people.
You can’t do all things at once.
You can’t do all things equally well.
You can’t do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else’s.
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others
Because no one else is in the contest of “being you”.
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due
And you’ll be a being that’s vitally alive.
Dare To Believe…
That you are a wonderful unique person,
That you are a once-in-all-history event,
That it’s more than a right, it’s your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish
and you’ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down. ”
The Wellbeing and Life Creation Coach ®
Transform your energy; Transform your life; Live Well, Share Love, Be the Change.