Have you ever allowed yourself to let go in order to move forward? I am sure it is something we have all done at some point in our lives, when the only thing left to do is to surrender.
Connect with the feeling of that surrender for a moment….then ask yourself, What if I did not wait for things to get to that point and I lived this way every day or even every moment?
So much of our life is focussed on getting somewhere, to that other place, other than where we are now. We want it quickly and we want it now. We spend so much of our waking hours working hard to make it happen, trying to get to that imagined place where we can say we made it. Do we ever really know when we are ‘there’?
In many cases when we do get ‘there’ the satisfaction level is much lower than expected. And if we have the courage to look back at the journey and be honest it has not been pleasant either, it has been tension filled and indifferent to ourselves and our relationships. This is a common outcome, leaving many dissatisfied with their lives. Unfortunately, this way of doing things is so ingrained in our society that this dysfunction has become normal to most people resulting in a major social addiction. The results are seen and felt by all of us, but unaware of what to do about it we just continue to put our focus unknowingly where the problems are and try to band aide them.
Well we don’t have to do this, each of us can make that difference in our own lives and this will cause a shift within society. In fact, if we are real about it we instinctively know this but are terrified to admit it. That is, that we FEEL there is a better way and that it starts with me. When we acknowledge this we are no longer working against ourselves and nature, it makes things easier to achieve, we switch the work hard mentality to a work smart ethos and allow and include the passive side of our nature.
We have a ‘work hard ethic’ instilled in our consciousness to the point that we never question it. Is it working for you?
We have been taught in a misguided way that hard effort equals gain – it may provide a gain but only in a limited way. The truth is that aware, relaxed, consistent, reduced effort with enthusiasm is much smarter and equals unlimited gain. Our brain and body operate best and last longer without hard effort. Hard effort is quite destructive.
The brain loves slow focussed repetition and is a master in capturing and organising every tiny subtle detail that occurs for us. When we understand this we feed the brain well and then let the brain function in full capacity doing the work for us. We then move beyond the one step forward two steps back scenario and move into quantum reality; an existence which we are highly capable of operating at. A way of being that effortlessly makes life move quicker and more smoothly.
This slowing our self down allow us to observe and be part of the operations at a much higher transcended level where attention is given to subtleties. These subtleties can be used by the brain in unlimited ways and it allows us to constantly find new ways to move forward. All possibilities are now open to us as we are functioning in a non-judgemental and expedient way. This results in us experiencing a richness of life and we begin to trust ourselves and life and we get better and better results for our efforts. Our focus and our efforts are shifted making us more active and passive at the same time.
When we ignore or dismiss the role of our brain and the capabilities we have within us we create a life of dissatisfaction. When we spend too much time working or thinking we create anxiety. And when we don’t get what we want – what our soul really truly desires we get depression. These are major dis-eases being experienced in this millennium so far. Unfortunately part of the problem is that we are so reliant on the system to sort it all out for us when the answer is within each one of us.
In years past someone who found themselves in this position may have dealt with it by dropping out in some way or another. These days we are trapped in the technology bubble of the 21st Century and this is much harder to do, people are instead taking the option of dropping out within themselves. If only they realised that this was unnecessary and that they hold the key to change and creating a better way.
We each have within us all that we need to not only sustain ourselves but also to shine. Please know that nothing is missing and you have immense greatness within yourself right now.
If your body/mind has been working hard to accomplish and/or resolve, what it really needs right now is down time. Be still and you will be rewarded.
If your mind/spirit has wandered off into despair, it has gone nowhere, call it back and express your love to it, be quiet and connect with your highest purpose, you are important.
Give to yourself what you need. In the beginning we may need help to do this.
There is a healthy and sustainable way to function in our lives and that is to begin living in a more conscious way. It starts with deciding to be kind to yourself by becoming responsible for your own wellbeing. Begin this by stopping, embracing stillness and giving ourselves permission to just be in our lives and connect with our own state of ease. There is power in giving in. The best practice I know for this is meditation.
This becoming aware alerts us to harmony or disharmony; to our stories and our choices; it releases the past and gives us a new beginning, and the effects of this overflow into our lives.
Through meditative and mindful practices we learn that we are humans and we are evolving. We learn about the present moment and how we can be more productive and have greater potential when we allow this moment to be and to pass. We learn that we can adapt in healthy and evolved ways rather than pushing and coercing which inevitable leads to resistance. We learn what produces happiness and what keeps us trapped unconsciously. And it teaches us how surrender and expansion can exist in the same moment.
Carolynne is a certified Meditation teacher with a diploma in Meditation therapy.
The Wellbeing and Life Creation Coach ®
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